Survival means different things to different people. Survival may be a concept that many believe applies only to animals or creatures living in the wild. Of course, there are those “survival” shows on TV, as well, in which people place themselves in risky and dangerous situations for the sake of money, fame, and entertainment. Being smart about survival when outdoor temperatures are too hot or too cold, or when natural disasters occur, saves lives. But, there are additional meanings to the word, ‘survival,’ as well, to be explored here. For people who experience traumatic situations, survival means applying ways to protect oneself in order to continue living, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
To many people who are without work, shelter, and/or food, survival means doing what is needed to live for another day, week, month, year. To families where this is the case, survival means sacrifice, sometimes doing without life’s comforts, cutting back on food, doing as little as possible in order to spend as little money as possible. For people who have lost jobs, homes, incomes, marriages, savings, credit standing, and more, survival means sacrifice and doing the best one can to survive every day.
What I have experienced in each of those situations is that most people turn away from those who are in need. Most folks are unable to believe it and really cannot stomach it to hear about other’s woes of poverty. When people are so poor that they turn to doing things that are illegal, it does not surprise me, I don’t wonder why. I would not reduce myself to such a level, however I understand why it happens. Most people who “have” keep what they have. There is an incredible level of blindness by the haves toward the “have nots.” And, with the economic woes our country has experienced over the past several years, I, personally, have not experienced improvement.
The holidays are the toughest time of the year. One wants to provide for their children for these special times. Thankfully, there are others in my extended family who have more means to provide than I do since I must now live within the bare means. But, it is always saddening and disappointing when folks such as myself are overlooked, even in a basic need for food. No one ever expects to see someone who is Caucasian to be begging, and even if they do, they don’t believe it and are in denial, typically seeking something illegal rather than simply being a good Samaritan.
So, this year, I didn’t beg. Instead, I lost weigh by eating less. Cutting out the fattening food and just eating less won’t hurt me. One has to live, or rather, survive. One is not living when each day, week, month, year is a financial struggle. Being a step away from walking or riding the bus instead of having a vehicle, or being a step away from making a home out of the vehicle is not living, it’s surviving. I don’t know how people do it. I don’t know how I’ve survived, but where there’s a will, there’s always a way. I have less, but I am blessed because I have learned to survive with it. Survival of the fittest.
The best part about survival is that I have learned much from it. I’ve learned that I can survive on nothing. I can survive on a shoe string. I can use what I have, and when I don’t have anything, I can go without. I will always go without so my family has what is necessary. So, survival has also built my character, my persistence, my perseverance, not that I needed any more of that, however. But, the worst part about survival is that it has also eroded my faith and hope in people. Basically, life is a struggle, so one must be thankful for the good that there is.
Sacrifice. Survival. Those are my two words for today. What do they mean to you?