I hope that you and yours have enjoyed a safe and happy 2020, and will enjoy an even better 2021! All the best!
Mental health care is a challenging, but rewarding field. There are many positive sides of mental health care, and also areas that need improvement. One of the biggest rewards of mental health care is observing and experiencing progress, recovery, and a return to wellness of clients. Healing, recovery, and a return to wellness of clients in mental health settings requires patience, understanding, respect, and sensitivity. Agency and organizational stability is also needed for clients in order that they receive optimal care. While each agency and/or organization has its own culture, a culture in which workers live in fear of becoming a statistic in extremely high turnover is unhealthy in itself.
As an individual working toward licensure in the mental health profession, I am one whose perspective is from a position of wellness. First and foremost, one must view a person as a person. To perceive and treat a person with respect, kindness, nonjudgment, and impartiality are requirements in supporting and empowering the wellness, healing, and recovery of clients. In the counseling profession, one based on a view of wellness in people, there exists a positive and supportive hope for the overall optimal health of the individual.
This view is different from many other mental health professions in which the general view of the client is one of sickness. Certainly, approaching an individual with a perspective of what can be improved is helpful, and for insurance purposes involving payment for services rendered, a diagnosis of the client is required, however it is my perspective that viewing the client from a wellness standpoint is much more healthy for all involved rather than judging a person as being sick.
Those who view and describe an individual as a “sick person” have already negatively judged him or her. They have not viewed the person as a person, but as an “ill person.” Such a perspective held by such individuals causes them to treat the client differently, as one who needs more and more treatment, more and more medication, more and more confinement. In these situations, the positive view of wellness is gone, and is replaced by a judgment that the “sick person” is unable to become well.
While clients have challenges to achieving and maintaining wellness, it becomes even more of a challenge when many in the mental health field view clients as sick, and only they as the professionals who hold those views have the power and expertise to make them well – or they have already judged that they will never become well. A professional who approaches a client from a perspective of wellness (a perspective that is in the minority), therefore, faces even more challenges, not only for themselves but also for their clients when others view them as sick and unable to become well. A person is still a person, regardless of their diagnosis or disorder. A person is still a person, and has the capability of becoming well. A hopeful perspective toward client wellness must exist in the mental health profession – rather than client sickness – in order that clients are supported and empowered to experience that wellness.
A further challenge in agencies and/or organizations in which a “sickness” perspective prevails is that experienced clinicians fall into the trap of believing that their views and judgments about clients are the best – that they are the experts. Certainly, the experience of a veteran clinician is extremely valuable in treating clients, however experienced clinicians who believe that only their views, judgments, and culture of sickness are the most helpful approaches create a potentially dangerous situations for their clients. Clinicians of all levels of experience must be open-minded to considering and perceiving different views – including those from a wellness perspective – so that their clients receive optimal care and so that they profession, itself, can grow and develop in a healthy way.
Clinicians who view clients from a perspective of illness and negative judgment place their clients at risk for further illness. Clinicians who are set in their ways of expertise toward mental health treatment, and who are unable to be open-minded toward viewing different perspectives regarding it have already erected walls around themselves that are harmful for themselves, their clients, the culture of their agency/organization, and the field of mental health.
What clinicians must always place as a primary priority is that people are people. As such, people should be treated with dignity, understanding, kindness, respect, and sensitivity. If a perspective of client wellness is lacking or absent, clients will likely experience a more difficult road to recovery and may not achieve wellness. What is healthier – being an “expert” clinician whose views of client illness cause him or her to be closed to considering a client’s optimal recovery, or being a clinician who treats a person as a person, and who applies a wellness perspective that supports rather than negatively judges the client? You be the judge.
What does it mean to be married for 50 years? My parents can tell you! This month, July 2013, my parents are celebrating their golden wedding anniversary! All I can say is, “Wow!”
My parents are a living and true example of what it means to be married to each other for fifty years. My parents were married in July 1963, very shortly after they both graduated from high school in Western New York State. They have lived and grown together in married life during these past 50 years. They have experienced many ups and downs in their lives, and have weathered and survived them.
My parents are a true example of people who are meant to be together. They seem to balance each other in personality; what one may lack, the other makes up for, and vice versa. It has always been interesting to me that they both share the same astrological sign, though they seem to get along with and understand each other very well.
I can say that, throughout the years, I have witnessed much love and forgiveness of my parents toward each other. This, I believe, is the glue that has held their marriage together. They have forgiven each other for the wrongs that they have done to each other – whether realized or not – and this outlook has helped them to reach such a monumental achievement.
In this age when most marriages likely don’t make it to a silver anniversary of 25 years, my parents have doubled that! My marriage lasted 7.5 years, and the relationship, itself, endured for 9 years. I have said to my former spouse that my parents experienced alot worse things in their lives than he and I ever did in our marriage, and my parents have remained loving, committed, and bonded to each other. I asked my ex why we couldn’t achieve that, however it was just not possible. People have to be willing to be open, loving, understanding, and forgiving of each other; some people simply are unable to be that way, and so, their marriages do not last.
In good, strong marriages, those who benefit the most from the stable and loving union are the children and grandchildren. My parents have been wonderful role models for my brother and I, and also for my son – my parents’ only grandchild. My parents’ strong, loving union has served as a beacon of hope for our family, in good times and in bad. It is a great comfort to know that whatever happens in our lives, our parents (and grandparents in the experience of my son) are always there for us.
Thanks, Dad and Mom, for remaining loving, committed, and loyal to each other through these many years. You have achieved an amazing accomplishment, one that I never will and can only imagine and experience as an observer. Congratulations and best wishes on celebrating your Golden Wedding Anniversary; and may God bless you!