I just wanted to make another post for today. This one is about being happy. One of my students last week asked me, “Ms. Babcock-Nice, why are you always so happy?” And, I responded to her that I love teaching and being there with she and the other students each day. What I also could have added, but tempered myself, was that I also love God, life, and myself. It was such a pleasure to receive her comment. I do my best to stay happy and realistic, and never just “put on” a happy face. In the past, there were times when I would do that, and it tends to just eat up your spirit. When you are unhappy, it is better to be honest about it rather than try to hide it, as I have discovered.
A long time ago in my younger years, I learned to be happy and love myself. Who better to be your own best friend than yourself? The world brings you down enough without beating yourself up about it. Why be miserable? Life is too short to be unhappy. Therefore, as I have gotten older, and through my training as a counselor, I learned that true happiness is within. I used to be a person who looked externally for happiness, such as seeking it in others or in material goods. Doing so only provides temporary happiness. Then, when it is gone, you’re just seeking more of it over again. This is good to recognize as early as possible, and is challenging to do when surrounded by (almost) all things you could want or ask for.
I have found that, growing up, I did not want for anything. There was always more than enough available to me, and I thought that was how I was supposed to live as an adult, as well. I tried to keep up with it all, but just ended up draining myself; it was not worth it. And, what I ended up learning was that all of these fancy, expensive things do not buy happiness; it is just a facade of happiness. Doing what you love, loving yourself, and starting afresh each day, allowing the stress to fall away in order to experience inner joy is very satisfying and rewarding.
Therefore, true happiness is, indeed, found within. This is also what I tell my students, and encourage them to find happiness within themselves. Sometimes we are missing things in our lives and our needs are not always met, however do not ever let anyone steal your joy or make you feel guilty for wanting to be happy! Human are actually biologically programmed to be positive and happy, and when we are not, the consequences can be severe and/or life-threatening. So, do your best to find your happiness within; you only live once.
Author’s Note: Funny that I just posted that yesterday and was devastated by something today. I haven’t cried that hard in years. Please pray for me. So sad right now. These things always hit when you least expect it.