People in positions of authority who don’t listen to or consider others aren’t leaders. It’s as simple as that. It seems that there are so many more people in our world who don’t listen to or consider others than there are those who do. What is extremely discouraging, disappointing, and disturbing is when an individual of common, everyday status approaches and/or comunicates with someone in authority about a serious issue or concern that can be changed or improved, and that person does not listen, does not care, and/or does not even consider what the other person has to say. We, therefore, must be very thankful for those people who do listen – whether or not they are in positions of authority and whether or not they are in a position to change a situation for the better. Those people seem to be getting fewer and fewer these days.
In my own experience and throughout my life, I have met, encountered, interacted with, and/or communicated with many people in positions of authority who, by their refusal to listen to, consider, and/or understand certain issues and concerns, are not true leaders. Leaders are those people who take charge and lead all others in a positive direction of beneficial development.
Sometimes, however, people in authority and in positions of leadership are unwilling and/or unable to listen to and consider the needs, issues, and concerns of others. Therefore, in my definition, they are not true leaders because they are unable to be open to truly hearing, considering, analyzing, and understanding issues that may bring about positive change that may and can be good and beneficial for everyone. People in positions of authority who are closed to others and who shut others out, by this definition, are not leaders.
It seems that there are sometimes too many people in our lives who are unwilling or unable to hear what we have to say. Perhaps our information is too uncomfortable for them to hear, or they are threatened by it in some way, or they are unable to cope with it. That is unfortunate for everyone because they are missing out on an opportunity to do something good for others. They, therefore, don’t even realize that they have missed a chance to improve something, to help another, and to potentially assist many others. They believe that they know the only right and correct way; they have closed themselves off from others, and believe they are protecting themselves from others.
In my life and experience, I have met, interacted with, and communicated with several people who, through their own discomforts, feelings of being threatened in some way, inability to cope, and/or simple refusal to listen caused them to shut me out, turning away from me. These people have included certain authority figures in higher education, churches, schools, businesses, family and friends, and even former intimate partners. When people are unable or unwilling to listen to information they don’t want to hear and/or with which they are unable to cope, they may shut you out, turn you away, deny you, discredit you, and/or even demonize you, simply for being direct, honest, truthful, and assertive.
It is, therefore, extremely important to be thankful and grateful for those who ethically and morally consider and listen to others, particularly when their information has, not only the potential to influence and assist that person in a positive way, but the potential to benefit many others, as well. There are some individuals out there who can and do listen. There are some folks who take positive and beneficial actions to help and protect others when they are informed about it. There are certain people – within the same and other groups that I mentioned above – who do act to help and benefit others, who seriously consider and analyze others’ actions and information, and who do not demonize and condemn the individuals who are providing truthful and honest information, even though it may be information that they don’t want to hear.
It is these people for whom we must be grateful. For these people, we must recognize and be aware of their personal and internal gifts and talents of truly being leaders. True leaders are strong in the face of persecution, even though others may have condemned and demonized them simply for stating or doing something with which others disagree or with which they are unable to cope. We must recognize, therefore, that the majority may not always be right or correct, ethical or moral, honest or truthful. What we must recognize is that even one or a few people can be correct over the majority, that perhaps even one or a few people who stand up for what is right even in the face of abuse, injustice, and persecution may have only the best interests of everyone in mind, not just that for themselves.
If you are a leader of a group, organization, business, or institution, how do you behave and what do you say to others in order to include, consider, and hear the concerns and issues of others? How do you examine, analyze, and research the information that has been given to you? Do you simply believe what others have to say about another person, simply because they may be in a potentially powerful position of authority over the other person? People in positions of authority are not always right and correct.
I identify Pope Benedict XVI as a good example of a person in authority who does not always do what is right and correct, in hiding and covering up the abuses of clergy throughout the world. I identify college or university presidents who do not listen to students who have concerns or issues about crimes committed against them by other students, or other college officials who will not consider other serious issues brought to their attention.
I identify school principals who bully teachers and students because they do not wish to draw attention to particular issues. I identify clergy who shut others out simply because they are unwilling or unable to cope with what others have to say. I identify governmental and political figures who won’t consider a different and perhaps better or more fair way of doing things in consideration of others. I even identify family members or relatives who are unable to hear or consider truthful and honest information, particularly when such information may potentially be to their benefit.
It is, therefore, very important to cultivate and maintain relationships with others who do consider, hear, listen to, and understand you. When you are completely honest and truthful with yourself, others who are also honest and truthful will recognize and appreciate your truth. It’s like the old sayings go, “Birds of a feather flock together,” and “they are like peas in a pod.” People who are similar understand, appreciate, and respect each other. People who stand up for what is right and correct find, understand, and appreciate each other, as well.
Thank you to all those who are able to hear, understand, listen to, and consider the truth, and what is right and good, even if it’s something that you don’t want to hear. For those of you who are unable to do so, I pray for you that your eyes, ears, and mind will be open to what others have to say.