Thanksgiving Roses and Pumpkin
There are so many things for which to be thankful in our lives. In getting older, my views of what to be thankful for have expanded, and surprisingly, have gotten somewhat modified. I believe that some of the things for which to be thankful go hand-in-hand, such as success, sacrifice, and gratitude. While each of these areas mean something different, they ultimately embody similar qualities for me. Perhaps with age has come greater wisdom and insight about what it is in life for which we should truly be thankful. It being Thanksgiving Day, it is the perfect opportunity to express and share the meanings and associations between success, sacrifice, blessings, and thanksgiving in my life.
Success, sacrifice, and thanksgiving are all connected in my life. They each have a very special meaning in my life, and have grown stronger and more intense throughout the passing years. Firstly, my personal meaning of success has changed throughout the years. When I was younger – say, a college student or recent college graduate – success meant getting and maintaining a great career position, along with earning a comfortable salary and benefits. It made me feel secure, stable, and accomplished to achieve that.
Roses in Georgia, October 2011
As the years have passed – such as the past 20 years or so – success for me, personally, now means doing all I can for the benefit of my family, particularly for my son. For me, success involves “being there” for my son as much as possible, providing him with the most and best possible quality time, and being a compassionate, sensitive, nurturing, caring, and loving mom for him. To me, that is my greatest success – “the” greatest success – raising, caring for, loving, and being there for my son. I invest all possible social and emotional understanding, compassion, and nurturing into my son, and I am also thankful and grateful to be able to do so on a regular and consistent basis.
So, for me, success no longer necessarily means having the best job or career position or earning the most money possible. Although it is important to have a stable and enjoyable career, as well as to earn money in order to live and provide for my family, my highest priority and greatest success is in mothering my son. So many jobs and career positions demand that people give their lives to their employment; I have given my life to being a mom, and being a sensitive, caring, loving, and nurturing one at that. It is my hope that in the future, my son will remember all of the time, compassion, care, love, and nurturing that was invested into him, and invest that back into his own future family, as well as to others with whom he comes into contact.
Success also involves doing what I can for my son, my family, myself, and others. Sometimes that also involves sacrifice – sacrificing my own selfish needs or desires for the benefit of others. As the years have passed, I have realized that I truly do not need everything that I think I do. And, when I look around, I see that I, indeed, have more than I need, materially. It has helped me to refrain from satisfying a compulsive impulse to buy something that I don’t really need by telling myself that I have everything already and that I don’t need it.
It also helps to remember that my main priority is in providing an outstanding education to my son, and that is where the money must go. Thus, a wonderful education for my son is the top priority of sacrifice for me to him. I strongly believe that such an excellent education is the best course of action for him, considering all other circumstances. Of course, there are also expenses for maintaining good health, well-being, and extracurricular activities, as well as for having a vehicle and driving it, however my son’s schooling helps me maintain my focus of investment in him and in his education. This is my gift of sacrifice to and investment into him.
Sacrificing and giving to others is also important to me. When I can, I drive my parents to where they need and/or desire to go. For one thing, this helps save on gasoline, though it also provides company, comraderie, companionship, and fellowship, not only for me, but also for my son. I do what I can to give back to my family for all the good that they have done for and provided to me, even in the little things that others may think are insignificant, such as buying some groceries, taking packages to be mailed at the post office, or taking items to the trash pick-up or recycling center. That stated, I know I could never in my entire life return to my parents all that they have provided in support and assistance to me, and for that, I am also extremely thankful and blessed.
Sacrificing also means giving back to the community, serving others, and helping those who are in need. I regularly do that as a volunteer in many capacities, including at two churches as a lector and lay minister, as a writer for a church newsletter, donating food and clothing for those in need, volunteering as a spiritual leader at my son’s school in activities that assist local families in need, assisting as a parent helper for school activities, organizing food for and delivering it to local families in need during the holiday season, volunteering my time, talents, and efforts in Cub Scouts whenever possible, and giving of my time by volunteering at the local religious-affiliated thrift store. Though my desired, intended, and enjoyed career path in teaching has not proceeded as planned, I am rewarded by being able to give of my time and talents to help and assist others – and, in turn, it is also spiritually, socially, mentally, and emotionally fulfilling for me.
So, what I am most thankful for are God, my son, my family, my friends, and the good, competent, caring professionals who are in my life. Without God, I would be nowhere. With God, I have, maintain, and develop my strong faith, even when things are not going well. I believe that there is a reason for everything, even though I may not know or understand what those reasons are. I also believe that God has our lives mapped out for us, and knows everything that will happen in our lives long before it happens and prior to us even making a choice on what to do.
I try my best to be thankful to God everyday and for everthing, both good and bad, because I believe there are learning experiences in everything. Of course, it is extremely difficult and challenging to be faced with bad, trying, or traumatic situations, though with God as my strength, I know that goodness, love, and mercy will prevail in some way. With God, for whom I am thankful, I am blessed with the hope and faith that He will guide and show me the best way in which for me to travel.
Thanksgiving is also important in association with my son. I am thankful for my son because he provides me with the greatest meaning in my life, he gives me the strength and fortitude that I need to live and enjoy each day, he fulfills that place within my soul that has the innate need to mother, nurture, care for, and love him. I am thankful for my son because I often believe that he is my reason for being, for living, and for sharing and enjoying the most in life that is possible. I am so moved and thankful to God for my son; he is my heart.
My family are also those for whom I am thankful. Without my family – my parents in particular – I would not be where I am today. When I was in need, it was my parents who were there for me and my son. My parents have been that strong, stable, unyielding rock of strength and persistence throughout my life, showing me that nothing is too great to overcome, that nothing is too great to bear, that nothing is too severe to integrate positively into my life in some way. Having been married now for nearly 50 years, my parents are wonderful role models for me, and for them, I am extremely thankful and indebted.
I have a few wonderful, close friends, and for them, I am also very thankful. One is lucky and blessed in their lifetime to find, acquire, and maintain friendships with those who are kindred spirits, sharing similar values, beliefs, and backgrounds, and I am blessed and thankful to have found such friends as these. Typically, I gravitate toward friends who are slightly older than me because I believe that they are more mature, experienced in the world and in their lives, and can also be wonderful mentors for me. In fact, there have been a couple of colleagues in my life who have also become wonderful friends, particularly for those reasons. It is such a blessing to be able to share an understanding, flexibility, and sensitivity with friends who hold similar outlooks, philosophies, and perspectives, and I am thankful for those people in my life.
Also of great importance in my life are those professionals who have been helpful and supportive of me and my family, and who have made our lives easier and more enjoyable. For these folks, I am extremely thankful and grateful, and for some, I will also never be able to fully express or show my gratitude if it takes me the rest of my life. Currently, a few of these people in particular include my attorney, a school superintendent, and physicians and healthcare professionals who doctor and/or otherwise assist me and my son. In the past, such professionals have also included college professors, instructors, mentors, and coaches; and professional peers and colleagues.
Of course, I am also thankful for nature, the environment, animals, flowers, plants, food to eat, shelter, safety, freedom and democracy, diversity, and different peoples, cultures, religions, languages, and customs. I am also thankful for opportunities, growth, development, life experiences, and being able to live my life. I am thankful to travel freely and to where I choose. I am thankful for having sight, hearing, touch, taste, intelligence, honesty, persistence, and a whole host of other qualities and characteristics. I am also thankful for being female – being a woman, for with that has come pregnancy and giving birth to my son, and enjoying experiences and intimacies that are understood only by women. Even so with all of these things for which I am thankful, I am most thankful for people and God.
My son and children, in general, are those people in my life for whom I am most thankful because they bring so much joy, happiness, innocence, and fulfillment into my life. Had I an enjoyable, stable, and loving relationship with a partner, I would also find great fulfillment in sharing such thankfulness and love with him, as well. I know, however, that a relationship of that nature is in God’s hands, and if such a relationship never presents itself, then I will know and accept that it was not meant to be, however discouraging and disappointing, perhaps it would be for the best. My love and compassion for children, children’s rights, and children’s welfare would also be high priorities for me to share with an intimate partner, as I am sure he would find similar enjoyment and fulfillment in this, as well.
Westward View of North Carolina Toward Tennessee from Cherokee, North Carolina, October 2010
While this post will end up being published and dated in the day following Thanksgiving this year, it was on my agenda to accomplish on Thanksgiving Day, though other things came up that needed attention. I hope that you who are reading my article will be able to reflect upon what it is that you are thankful for, and perhaps, also find some correlations between success, sacrifice, gratitude, and blessings in your life.
Sometimes, we just need to stop and smell the roses, or – before you know it – those roses are gone and we are left wondering what happened. I took a few moments this evening to cut some roses from the backyard garden and to smell and enjoy them. Please also take time to be thankful and share all wonderful things on this Thanksgiving. Take time to “smell the roses;” enjoy all that is good; share with family, friends, and loved ones; and be thankful for all that our wonderful Creator has bestowed upon us. Give extra hugs and more quality time to your children and family. Take a moment to appreciate everything, and not take it for granted. Enjoy it now – it doesn’t last forever!